Partner in love or partner in crime?

Having lived for this long, I've come to realise that there is no better feeling than love. Be it any form of love! And if you come across the combo pack of love and lust, then there isn't anything better than that. Finding yourself a partner is like finding the Kohinoor after a long treasure hunt. But how long does this partnership work?

Initially your partner is your entire universe. With time, the magic wears off and you're just stuck in a routine with this person you call your partner and you come to realise that something is missing, something is off. At such a stage you could choose to end the relation or just let it be. Eventually, you tend to find that missing something in other places, maybe unintentionally, but you definitely do. It starts off with a coincidental eye contact, followed by harmless conversations, which grows into innocent friendship, leading to casual flirting that causes sparks to fly and eventually creating a bond of intimacy.

Now, some faithful partners may remember their beloved ones they'd found sometime ago and will know where to draw the line in their new found friendship. Some like to end it at that level of special friendship and name their new acquaintances as "good friends". Some would nip the process in the bud before it even grows into friendship knowing where that path is going to lead them. While certain selfish individuals would continue with their new found intimacy and probably take it a notch higher by bonding physically.

There comes a dilemma when you have to make a choice rather when you define moral boundaries for yourself. Are you the same person with the original partner and the new found spark? Would you be in a position to be physically present with both persons at the same place and be at peace within or would there be mental turbulence? Can't remember what went wrong and when did you reach this place and what could you possibly do to get yourself out of your own mess?

Well I'm no relationship expert nor am I inhuman to not experience such situations in life. However, I would suggest that infidelity isn't only when you're cheating on your partner with your new found special someone by engaging in the physical act of love. But I would say that you've committed a wrong doing the moment you've done / thought / spoken with the "someone new" that you wouldn't have done / thought / spoken when your partner is with you. Why call it infidelity only when you've cheated on your partner by having sex with someone else? Why even allow yourself to reach such a level. The very fact that you prefer spending time away from your partner and find solace in another form of relation be it a best friend or parental guidance (not necessarily an affair) proves that you need to reconsider the relationship you share with your partner. Whether you want to repair it or break it is entirely your choice, after all you were the one who decided to be in it in the first place, isn't it?

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I am the person I want to be

Let’s not look at the grass on the other side and think of it as greener than our grass. Stop staring. Stop comparing. Stop complaining. Let’s start watering our own grass and make it as green as we want it to be. Let’s create our own beautiful garden and grow flowers and fruits that will reap us joy and pleasure upon harvest and even enrich lives of others. Continue gardening always!

Life is what we make of it! Let’s not leave it up to chance, but pursue and strive to live every moment and make it a memorable one and worth cherishing. Life is a wonderful gift – appreciate it!

I write better everyday 

I’ve been procrastinating my writing for quite sometime with the thought that I don’t write or speak well enough. I read blogs and books by seasoned writers and admire how language can be used is such a beautiful manner to communicate thoughts and imagination. The mere use of simple words placed well grammatically can make such a difference and also create such a huge impact. I too wish to write like a pro but the negativity within refrains me from pursuing my goal. However, today I’ve decided that I’ll just write – come what may. I’ll write a little daily and improve myself. After all whoever reads all this is just another amateur writer who must have been in my shoes at some point in their lives and hopefully understands what I’m trying to convey. Please help me write better by suggesting some wonderful ideas. 

Lucky or unlucky? Don’t know!

Prompt: Luck

I wonder if luck is a real “thing” or it’s just the presence of an opportunity at a time when you are prepared for it. Maybe luck is the opportunity itself, or the opportunities arise as per the thoughts you create in your mind. I always practice and recommend to be optimistic and send out positive vibes into the universe. Rather than thinking of what you don’t want or can’t do, change your thought pattern to what can be done or what you want to happen. Accordingly, “luck” will be in your favour and you’ll begin to believe that life is good. There isn’t anything as lucky or unlucky – you’re in-charge of your own life! There maybe good and bad circumstances, but it all depends on your point of view. A blessing to you can be a curse for another. It’s not for you to decide what’s good and bad – they are sides to the same coin. Keep looking for good in all situations and be happy or neutral, but don’t sulk and be sad. Don’t curse fate for bringing bad-luck at your doorstep cause the concept of luck itself is a figment of your imagination. All you need to do is act towards what you wish for and it will definitely be yours, maybe not the first instance, probably not the second time either, but if you keep trying different approaches to get what you desire, you will succeed! I can guarantee you that!!

So go out there and get what you want! It’s all possible! All you need to do is – try! 🙂

Lost and found 

Driving down the road, I heard a thud sound like as if I dropped something. I checked everything possible but there wasn’t anything missing. I thought I lost something but thankfully I hadn’t…

Sometime later I found everything around me so alive. I could see more than what appeared to be as people walking around, cars passing by, trees standing tall (and short) etc. I could actually sense the beauty in life around me. I could feel the love and emotions generated from each living being. I found something that I didn’t even know was lost. 

Looks like I did drop something earlier – not a physical package, but some mental baggage. I’ve found a better outlook to life, like some kind of mystical intervention. I feel like I’ve found a key to a magical land. I can’t resist experiencing how wonderful life is. How amazing to see everything so intertwined yet separated. Life based on plain simple emotions yet built on complex imaginary materialistic objects that define our daily doings and thoughts. 

I want to take a moment and thank the universe for my existence – I appreciate my life and feel blessed! I’m grateful for all of me today. 

🙂

My top ten inspirational quotes by Michelle Obama

  1. “We need to do a better job of putting ourselves higher on our own ‘to do’ list.”
  2. “Success isn’t about how much money you make; it’s about the difference you make in people’s lives.”
  3. “Real men treat the janitor with the same respect as the CEO.”
  4. “Failure is an important part of your growth and developing resilience. Don’t be afraid to fail.”
  5. “When someone is cruel or acts like a bully, you do not stoop to their level. Our motto is when they go low you go high.”
  6. “Choose people who lift you up.”
  7. “I am desperate for change – now – not in 8 years or 12 years, but right now.”
  8. “You can’t make decisions based on fear and the possibility of what might happen.”
  9. “Just do what works for you, because there will always be someone who think differently…”
  10. “Always stay true to yourself and never let what somebody says distract you from your goals.”

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